#70 - Give a “just because” gift (44/101).

Have you heard of the 5 love languages? It is a method that Dr. Gary Chapman came up with where he identified 5 love languages (Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, Quality Time, Receiving Gifts and Acts of Service) and demonstrates how knowing how you and your loved ones give and receive love will strengthen your relationships. Everyone tends to have a primary and secondary way in which they love and for some people, the way they give/show love differs from how they receive love. I read the book, took the quiz and realized that the primary way I receive love is by quality time and that my least tendency is receiving gifts. Dr. Chapman's theory says that it is important to recognize the love languages of those around you, especially if they differ from the way you primarily give or receive love, in order to ensure you are giving love to others in ways that they most appreciate them.

Since reading this book, I have been more cognizant of making sure to show love and appreciation in a variety of ways so I am glad that I was able to connect number seventy on my list with the love language theory. I supervise a rockstar at my job, one that works extremely hard, always supports me and our team, goes above and beyond in what she is asked to do and cares deeply for those around her in her personal and professional lives. We were at lunch a couple weeks ago and she told me she was going to the beach for vacation and could not wait because things had been busy lately and being by the ocean puts her in her happy place. A few days later I was running errands and saw this sign that immediately made me think of her and our conversation. I bought it, wrote her a note and gave her a "just because" gift to show her that I was (a) listening and (b) to gift her some desk swag. I love gifting small surprises - when was the last time you gave a "just because" gift?